He just used my body to satisfy his lust. He didn’t love me afterall. He broke my life when he left me. I loved him so much that I gave my everything to him. It is unfair I gave my all but he left me. Why is this happening to me? I thought he loved me!
She was just another “slut” in town. I can’t trust her ever again. If she can give her body to me, there’s no reason she will not do it with some other guys. She was a flirt. She just used me to be a trophy boyfriend. The relationship was doomed. We just wanted physical, nothing more!
Have you heard these lines? I’m pretty sure, it’s either you have spoken those lines or you have heard them from your friends. And reading them right now, they seem to be nasty, and…. just stupid?
She was just another “slut” in town. I can’t trust her ever again. If she can give her body to me, there’s no reason she will not do it with some other guys. She was a flirt. She just used me to be a trophy boyfriend. The relationship was doomed. We just wanted physical, nothing more!
Have you heard these lines? I’m pretty sure, it’s either you have spoken those lines or you have heard them from your friends. And reading them right now, they seem to be nasty, and…. just stupid?
When You Start Young, You End Up Bruised
What’s the right age for a man and a woman to start a relationship, or perhaps embark to the world of courtship? I can’t tell what’s the right age, but one thing’s sure, it is not when you are still a teen!
But why? A lot of my friends are already dating and having their lives spent with someone even when we’re just starting middle school!
It is not about what they are doing, it’s about what you are doing! Period.
The purpose of starting a relationship with the opposite sex is to build a connection that you intend to preserve until marriage. I guess, this is the right definition of that, and not just to enjoy the said “relationship”. You don’t start a relationship with someone just to “play”. If you want to play, go to the park. A relationship is not supposed to be a “game”. You don’t play with people!
And the other way around… if you don’t want others to play with you, don’t join the game! Don’ start “dating” young! It is not what you think, whatever and however you want it.
When a person gets into a relationship at a young age, before she or he reaches 20 years old, he or he would have been in at least five “relationships”. Wow. Five! That’s too many. But it’s true.
And by that time, you don’t trust people anymore. You are always thinking that he is not truly interested with you. Perhaps, he is just playing. So what you do? You also play the game. And why not? After all, you are just going to end this relationship after sometime. The question is just WHEN to end it.
Because of this scenario, you push yourself to make the most of it. Women would give their bodies to men they are in the relationship for that moment just to enjoy it while it lasts. And men take advantage of women who are looking for some fun.
Perfect combination, right?
But this should not have been the scenario.
The Dream Ever Wanted, But Too Elusive
Every sane young man dreams to find a woman whom he can share his life with. And every sane woman is dreaming for that man to rescue her from loneliness. This is the normal and ordinary dream of any man and woman, irrespective of race, color, or descent.
And you are objecting? Wow!
Why do you think romantic movies always have heaven-like ending? Because we want to get the most of everything. These endings appeal to our hearts, what we wanted and what ever wanted from birth.
But you see all these are elusive dreams. You can’t seem to find them.
Why? Because you started wrong!
You are already trapped. You cannot get out of the box. Why should get out… just to hurt? It’s better to stay in being trapped and be like the rest than get out and suffer heartaches, pain.
The Way Out
In everything there’s always a way out. And you just need to find the door. It takes effort and determination.
To get out of the trap, you need to be out of the chain. You have to break with her or him. If you want to start clean, you’ve got to take no baggage. This is the rehabilitation principle. Break with her or him NOW.
And who went to the rehabilitation center without pain? Of course, you will experience too much longing of her or him. And worst, you will also long for “sex” with that person. Let’s be honest with that. This is a normal scenario. You are still human, living in a physical and sinful body.
But you have to fight it.
Take three years off from romantic relationships with anybody. Just a break.
It is the time to regain yourself. Your life. Your identity.
And when you are out of the trap, you can start building a relationship with a person without the feeling of BETRAYAL, DISTRUST, JEALOUSY, UNFAIRNESS, SELFISHNESS, LUST… By then, you can give your entire being to a person for you need to one with that person. And you can never be one with that person when you are not complete.
It is time to get out of the trap. To start a new path. A better path. This time, trust GOD to write your LOVE STORY.
